With all the demands in life, most of us hardly have a minute to catch our breath. But, forย Brennen Reeves โ14, that has always beenย the No. 1 priority.
Born with the progressive lung disease cystic fibrosis, Reeves has struggled for every breath heโs ever taken. Heโs never known if this breath would be his last. In 2011, when the disease nearly choked the life out of him, Reeves was given a double lung transplant โ which, while extending his life, still doesnโt mean he can breathe easy.
Encouraged and coached by David Lee Nelson โ00, a stand-up comedian who taught Reevesโ solo performance theater class at theย College, the theater major has documented his story of survival in Breathe. A True Story. He has performed the one-man show with raw honesty in many settings, including in the 2015 Piccolo Spoleto Stelle di Domaniย theater series.ย He is currently working to expand the show into a book.
When you wake up every day not knowing if itโs the last, you see things a little differently. And, while Reeves has been concentrating just on breathing for the past 24 years, heโs made quite a few observations that we could all learn from. Here are 6 tips to help us all learn toย just breathe.
1. Find a creative outlet.
โWriting Breathe was a really strange, cathartic experience for me,โ says Reeves, who started writing his story at the insistence of Nelson. โHe sent me home and said, โThis is who you are.โ So I went home, and I kept going and going, crying at home, letting things go. Iโd write these things down and they came to life. It was really strange. โฆ Writing for me is a very piece-by-piece kind of thing. I wasnโt very focused. Iโd get on a rant for days. It would just take on a life. It was organic and natural, and I think I needed that.โ
2. Donโt be afraid to mess up.
โOne reason I love theater is that it brings life to the arts โ and thatโs so necessary. Youโre up on stage, itโs live, and people are watching everything you do โ even when you mess up. Thatโs human. Theater is the most human art form, I think, because you can only control what you can control. And thatโs life,โ says Reeves, who is taking his show on tour soon. โI just feel like this maybe is something to pursue, so why not? If I get shot down, Iโll just get back up and start again.โ
3. Give what you can.
โNothing is greater than giving someone a longer lease on life by being an organ donor. Whether itโs one eye or a lung, whatever: Donating yourself is the most selfless thing you can possible do,โ says Reeves, adding that thereโs plenty that we can do while weโre alive, too. โItโs heartbreaking that some kid is sitting alone with this. Why canโt he have someone sit with him? People want to know, What can I do? First, be a donor. But right now, if you donโt have the money to give and you want to make a difference, go play a game with a kid whose family canโt spend the time they need with them. Be a person who can take something on as great as changing someoneโs life.โ
4. Be grateful.
โIt is never lost on me that someone had to die for me to live. Itโs not even possible to put into words how grateful and sad that makes me. Thank you doesnโt touch death, and sorry doesnโt touch grief,โ says Reeves, who has not investigated the source of his transplanted lungs. โIn many ways, I am so lucky โ my life is so great. And not just with the transplant. There are so many individuals who suffer from this and donโt have the support that I had โ who donโt have a family that can take them to the doctor every day, that can afford the kind of care it takes. I am so, so, so blessed. Itโs hard to think of all the kids out there who have this and donโt have the kind of support Iโve had. Millions of kids who have this die because they werenโt financially able to get transplants.โ
Reeves adds, “I especially want to thank my mom, dad, and brother and mostly David – the creative genius which he is. David is the reason Breathe. a True Story is alive.”
5. Donโt worry so much.
โI want to teach people that everything is all right โ youโre going to be OK. You donโt have to try so hard. Iโm not saying that you shouldnโt care or that youโre not going to struggle ever, but youโre going to be OK,โ says Reeves. โCheck: youโre here, and youโre OK. Iโm here now, and when I die, itโs going to be OK. We donโt have to get all philosophical about it. Everyoneโs got their thing that theyโre carrying around โ what matters is how you carry the weight, not what the weight is. Itโs all going to be OK.โ
6. Participate in life.
โJust because I have to think about exhaling and inhaling isnโt an excuse for checking out. Every breath could be my last. Thatโs the reality. Iโm not going to live forever. Iโm just going to enjoy this while I can,โ says Reeves. โYou canโt be scared. If youโre always scared of whatโs out there, why would you even get out of bed? And then whatโs the point? Donโt forget the big picture. You have to look at quality of life and just live.โ